Sunday, April 18, 2010
The Institution of Marriage- an outsiders’ perspective
PART-I
“Love keeps the world moving” how misleading is this quote, I kind of pity the person who came up something as absurd as this when the reality seems to be just the other way round- you actually need the world to keep the “love” moving and going.
Now, there might be quite a few who would prefer to disagree with me, but I would stand on my views no matter what comes or goes.
A single individual tends to behave differently at different times to very identical circumstances, then one can always imagine what would be the fate of a relationship which is comprises of two different individuals belonging to two entirely different schools of thought.
“Love” or for that matter any relationship especially a marriage tends to be very fluid. It keeps changing its form unless there exists the passion which existed at the very inception of the relationship. Once the passion dies out (which eventually does in due course of time in all relationships, irrespective of any other factor) it takes the world to keep the relationship moving and growing. The so called concepts of eternal “love” remain as mere concepts which exist in fairytales and not in the real life.
In days wherein the costs of basic living are moving at hyper-sonic speeds (couldn’t come out with a superlative for supersonic), axiomatically necessitates both partners to be working; which in turn leads them to put in that “extra effort” at their workplaces to meet targets which are rather hallucinating. Raised familial expectations coupled with social evolution (though I prefer to call it devolution of basic moral values) lead to frustration and vexation within the relationships. These very feelings (fortunately these again are fluid ones) of frustration and annoyance tend to develop into “cracks” in the relationship. Eventually the very reasons (or needs) for which the relationship was conceptualized become the very reasons for the fall out of the relation.
All that was ever dreamed of or was ever thought of shatters and disappears into thin air. All this and probably more could be proved just by observing the worldwide statistics on divorce and suicides related to marital discord.
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